C IL | Or maybe your folks did a great job but your spouse has a different love language and you didn’t see that displayed as a primary communication mechanism.
I am the same with gifts, they don’t mean much, but I notice an act of service (hot meal, clean house) and positive words. My spouse can be blunt and outspoken but just wants her hand held while she gets my undivided attention for a few minutes when we bump into each other. When we figured out we received daily affection in different but small ways, being intentional in displaying and noticing that care was much easier. |